It’s almost
seems silly to define happiness. You know when you’re happy, and certainly no one
has to tell you when you’re sad. But what is it that makes a person happy. You
might think of all kind of experiences. Music makes me happy or ice cream makes
me happy or he or she makes me happy or house work makes me unhappy or Aunt
Tina makes me sad etc.
It is
important to realize, however, that what makes you happy might make another
person unhappy. One person you present with a cute little puppy is delighted,
another can’t stand dogs and now has to get rid of the poor animal. The
philosophy is about enjoying things you like and avoiding or changing the
things you don’t like, and accepting what you cannot avoid or change by the skillful
use of your view point. The use of this philosophy as embedded in five rules
will allow you to test many problem areas in your life and find solutions.
Rule No 1. “ If you like a thing, enjoy it "
At first you
say it’s ridiculous, of course I like some thing I going to enjoy it. But when
to stop to think about that statement you probably agree that in life many
thing we like but not enjoying it. The reason we don’t enjoy things because of
two reason (i) guilt and (ii) fear. You will not enjoy the thing you like if
you have guilt after having that done or if you are fearful of the consequences
of doing it
.
Rule No 2. “ If you don’t like a
thing, avoid it "
The rule
looks simple enough but reflect for a moment on how many people are involved
with things they do not like for e.g Job, a person, a vehicle, a type of food
etc and for some reason they don’t avoid those things like I do the job because
I need money or I have to involved with this person because of several reasons
etc. How many justification can you think of for not avoiding the things you do
not like to do.
Rule No 3. “If you don’t like a thing
and you cannot avoid it, change it "
Here again,
the answer is simple, change it. But just avoidance we rationalize that we need
something about it – money, time and security etc and some thing is holding you
to that particular thing, you don’t like it or avoid it or cannot change it but
still involved with it.
Rule No 4. “ If you don’t like a
thing, cannot avoid it or cannot change it, accept it "
How do you
accept a situation that you are not happy with it or how can you accept a
person you’re not happy with it, well if you don’t like it, cannot avoid it,
won’t change it and will not accept it, then you won’t be Happy. The key lies
in the Rule No.5, the secret of happiness.
Rule No 5. “ You accept a thing by
changing your viewpoint of it "
You are your
viewpoint. Everything is relative to a person experiencing of it. Nothing is
good or bad, except as it relative to you. Life is simply is, you can change
those things you wish by changing your viewpoint about them. Simply switching
your viewpoint to love. This can be explained by example
George decided to drive to
a nearby restaurant. He walked out to the parking lot and saw that his car has
a fresh dent in the right front fender. Somebody had backed into his automobile
and dented the fender. He didn’t like it, he couldn’t avoid it as it was there
and he couldn’t change it. That left him the choice of being either happy or
unhappy about the experience. George chose happy. He chose to change his view
point. When he looked at the fender he no longer saw a dent that would cost him
lots of money and time to be repaired but instead saw it as a stimulus to
achieve something positive.
Trying to imagine a positive outcome of the dent,
he determined to earn triple the amount that it cost to repair the fender. His
earning was $ 500 and the dent cost $ 250, so he decided to earn $ 750 so that
he can pay$ 250 for the dent, so he
did it and earned $ 750, keeping him in happy phase and turning their view
point to earn more rather then criticizing it. He stayed happy even though he
had an experience that could cause most people a great deal of anguish. It’s a
simple solution to a happy life, changing of positive view point.
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